Sunday, March 28, 2010

What’s the Difference Between D/s and BDSM? *

*This is a completely unscientific and un-researched expose, drawn entirely from my own impressions and experience. It’s my personal take on the language. I purposely did not go to the Internet to check facts or references, drawing instead from my own twisted little brain. In other words, this is just my opinion. Not a statement of fact. I welcome your comments and interpretations.


Four little letters. So much power. Bondage. Discipline. Sado-masochism. It wasn’t all that long ago you didn’t find those four letters lumped together. There was B&D, and there was S&M. B&D focused more on just what it implies—bondage, and enforcing behaviors via discipline, correction or punishment. The intent is sexual, with the added overlay of rope and obedience.

S&M is the darker stuff, the stuff Marquis the Sade (whose name, of course, gives us the term sadism) wrote about, that makes you cringe even if at the same time it arouses some darker impulse of desire. No safewords in his writings, but plenty of blood and horrible suffering, mixed in with an (un)healthy dose of misogyny.
BDSM is a sort of conglomerate of it all, a hodgepodge of “the scene” with all that entails. Plenty of room for whips, chains, rope, submission, Dominance, power exchange, Master and slave. In its common usage, at least as I understand it, BDSM is more about the physical aspects of the scene. What happens, and who’s doing what to whom. It’s about the leather, about the gear, about the proper etiquette and behavior, both public and private.

Over the past few decades a new term has emerged. D/s. Dominance and submission, but a new, softer definition than that contained in BDSM. D/s has evolved to be more about the emotional connection. The spiritual connection, if you will, between Dom and sub. At least, that’s the way I interpret it, and how I use it in my writing. BDSM is black leather and single tail whips. It’s hardcore bondage and a need for safewords. D/s is about romance. It’s about the power of erotic submission. D/s captures the emotional bond between a Dom and his/her sub, a connection at once fierce and tender, soft as velvet but stronger than steel.

Yes, I admit it—I’m a hopeless romantic when it comes to D/s. How about you? What’s your take on the terms? BDSM vs D/s? Oh, and since you read this far, your comment will automatically enter you into a contest for a free ebook download from Romance Unbound. I’ll pick a winner this coming Friday, April 2.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

You Know You Want to Hold It in Your Hand!

The PAPERBACK! It's out in print - the first four books of The Solitary Knights of Pelham Bay are all together in one nice fat paperback just waiting for you.
Click Here to check it out. Oh! And leave a reader review if you're so inclined!

Monday, March 15, 2010

Sunday, March 14, 2010

This Press Release Went Out Today from the NLA!

(Columbus, OH) -- National Leather Association: International (NLA-I), a leading organization for activists in the pansexual SM/leather/fetish community, announced today the finalists for its recently created writing awards. Named after activists and writers Geoff Mains, John Preston, Pauline Reage, Cynthia Slater, and the organization Samois, they are awarded annually to recognize excellence in writing and publishing about leather, SM, bondage and fetishes.

The finalists for the Pauline Reage Novel Award are: 
    Melinda Barron, Graceful Submission (Loose Id)

    James, Buchanan, Hard Fall (MLR Press)

    Alex Ironrod, Obsession (Nazca Plains)

    Claire Thompson, Submission Times Two (Romance Unbound)

This is a huge honor. I am so thrilled. If you haven't had a chance to check it out, here's the link:
Submission Times Two

Monday, March 1, 2010

Stardust - Book 4 of The Solitary Knights of Pelham Bay - NOW AVAILABLE!

It's up and available exclusively at! Please stop by and check out the 4th book in the series. Here's a mini blurb to give you an idea. You can read an excerpt at the site. Only $2.99! Be the first on your virtual block to get a copy.
Happy Reading!